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What the Silhouette Challenge Taught Me

The pandemic has brought out the utmost creativity in people. There's just something about having to shelter in place that gets those creative juices flowing! From the #FlipTheSwitchChallenge to the #ImSoPrettyChallenge— we've all been finding a way to kill boredom. At what point do these challenges go too far though?

The latest challenge out there is the Silhouette Challenge. Make no mistake, I am not judging anyone that decides to do the traditional version of the Challenge. It's definitely not my cup of tea, but to each their own. After seeing what the Silhouette Challenge consisted of, I decided to put my own spin on it— and this is what happened.

Most members of my audience loved the approach, and loved the message even more....others, not so much.

I'm not one to focus on the negatives more than the positives on my platform. However, some of the comments above deserve to be addressed in a deeper way. Personally, I don’t like the uninhabited access the challenge gives men (and women) to our bodies. I polled some of my followers to gather their thoughts on the challenge, and I got mixed reviews. Some of my followers thought the challenge was a hot mess. However, others thought the challenge was empowering and liberating. I can see how it’s empowering for some, but not for me. Then, to receive some of the comments I received from the individuals above further proved my point.

It is one thing to not get the lewd content you came looking for, but it is another to have the unmitigated gall to express that so openly and colorfully— especially on my platform. Do you understand this is the equivalent of having a complete stranger ring my door bell and telling me they don't like the flowers I used to accent my front yard? Here's the thing— just because women and men are choosing to objectify themselves in this way doesn’t entitle them to see me like that. Yet, they were bold enough to come tell me how to run my platform because I didn’t show any skin or my curves through a silhouette? That's a problem!

I believe one of the main reasons they felt like it was okay to step to me that way is because other people have normalized what they feel entitled to see and say. Let's not forget that Black people still remain one of the most vulnerable populations worldwide. Have we lost the ability to curb our enthusiams to focus on what remains unresolved but is still critically important?

I don't mean to brag, but I have so much more I want to show off than my body through a silhouette filter— which creeps have found a way to remove. I'll list a few things I'm proud of below—

  • I'm the daughter of immigrants that not only have advanced degrees but serve in leadership positions in their career fields.

  • I currently serve in a leadership position in my career field, as well as social/professional organizations.

  • I own and co-own multiple businesses.

  • I've obtained multiple degrees, including an advanced degree

I don’t want to be appreciated and praised for my body. I want to be appreciated for the things people can't see. Again, no shade to anyone that wants to do the challenge. I just want everyone reading this— men and women alike to consider the fact that the people enjoying the overabundance of silhouettes to understand what participating traditionally can do. You never know when you might be under consideration for the biggest break of your life. You never know which brand has been watching your feed, wanting to approach you to represent them. You never know which CEO or organization may be canvassing channels to make that final decision on offering you that new role.

You just never know...

So, is it really worth the risk for 30-seconds worth. of fun and attention? The internet is forever. Screenshots and screen recordings are both forever. Please don't let social media pressure you intobthinking you have to participate in these challenges the way they are— or at all. There are no rules to how you participate in social media trends. You have the freedom to take something trendy and make it your own— just like I did.

You are valuable. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are a game changer. You are a great mom. You are a great wife. You are a great sister/daughter/granddaughter. You are a great boss. See, you didn't need a silhouette challenge or any challenge to get that praise.

All you had to do is read this post... and I thank you for that <3

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